When tomorrow starts without me, and I’m not there to see. If the sun should rise and find your eyes, all filled with tears for me. I wish so much you wouldn’t cry, the way you did today, While thinking of the many things we never got to say.
I know how much you love me, as much as I love you.. And each time that you think of me, I know you’ll miss me too.. But when tomorrow starts without me, Please try to understand.. An angel came and called my name and took me by the hand, It seemed my place was ready – In Heaven far above, and that I’d have to leave behind, those things I dearly love..
But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye. For all of life, I’d always thought, I didn’t want to die. I had so much to live for, so much yet to do, It seemed almost impossible, that I was leaving you.. I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad.. I thought of all the love we shared, and how much fun we had.. If I could relive yesterday, just even for a while, I’d say goodbye, then kiss you ‘til I saw that special smile..
But then I fully realized, that it could never be, ‘Cause emptiness and memories, would take the place of me. And when I thought of all those things, I might miss come tomorrow, I thought of you, and when I did, my heart was filled with sorrow. . But when I walked through Heaven’s gates, I felt so much at home. When God looked down and smiled at me, From his great & golden throne,
He said, “This is eternity, and all I’ve promised you. Today your life on Earth is past, but here it starts anew. I promise no tomorrow, but today will always last, and since each day is the same day, there’s no longing for the past. . But you have been so faithful, so trusting and so true, Though there were some times you did some things you shouldn’t do. .
But you have been forgiven, and now at last you’re free, So come and take me by the hand, and share my life with me..” So when tomorrow starts without me, don’t think we’re far apart, for every time you think of me, I’ll be right there – in your Heart..
From my experience I can quite honestly say what ever your budget you can still have your dream wedding and plan it in less than 72 hours. if there is a preacher, a witness, and love is shared beyond anything imagined, everything else is extra Sometimes, I think of the line in the grinch story where he discovers that it is not all about the packages and gifts. The presents are in addition to the meaning; they do not take the place of the event. And so the same goes for weddings. Love does not come because of gowns, veils, and flowers. It is not wrapped in ribbons and bows. It is not served on a platter with cake and icing. It is just a little bit more. . If you are able to find a gown, don a tux, eat cake, smile with friends, and carry flowers without stressing over the extras, blessed will be your heart
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
Simplest and most precise descriptions of Event planning roles
Many people use the terms planner, coordinator, and consultant interchangeably. However, the reality is that there are differences depending on what you need done for your event or wedding.
Planner: This would be the person you would have with you from beginning to end. This is either because you don’t have the time to do it all, or you just simply acknowledge that you need help pulling it all together. This goes for weddings and other social events.
Coordinator: In the case of a wedding, this would be the person who would show up for the rehearsal, ceremony, and reception. In other social events, this person would simply run the show the day of the event.
Consultant: The consultant is the person you are looking to advise you specific items related to your event. You may meet with this person once or many times, but they will typically charge by the hour because you only need their consultation
Hiring a wedding planner is a big investment , but it’s also a total sanity-saver. You might start off the wedding planning process excited about buying a dress or going to your cake tasting, but the nitty-gritty details that make up the less-fun parts of planning a wedding can really bog you down. Having an amazing planner by your side to help with mundane tasks such as checking if your caterer is available or making sure you rent the correct number of wine glasses will transform a good wedding into a great one (and make the months leading up to the big day a little more enjoyable). While the basics of a planner’s job are pretty well-known, how do you make sure you’re getting a good return on your investment?
Know their strengths.
Before you even hire a planner, find out a little more about them and their background. Were they the events manager at a major venue, the head of catering at a hotel, or are they a long-time planner with years of experience and vendor contacts? “They might be a wiz at styling tables after years with a rental company, or know everything there is to know about menus because they used to work for a caterer,” “Once you figure out their strengths and passions, you’ll have a better sense of ways they’ll be able to help with your wedding that might not be evident on paper.” Also, think about how these strengths play with your own. If you’re an organizational genius without an artistic bone in your body, a planner with a serious creative streak will be perfect for you, whereas if you’ve got all the design details under control but need help keeping it all straight, a planner with a background in management could be your best bet.
Go beyond the basics.
Everyone has their own version of a wedding timeline and budget, but that doesn’t mean it will fit your wedding from the get-go. “Ask your planner to customize the timeline to fit how much time you have and to create a monthly macro to-do list that’s specific to your wedding, The same goes for budget. Ask your planner to help you customize the budget to fit your priorities, whether that means cutting back on flowers to put more toward your dream band — or squeezing in the rentals you’ve had your eye on.
Trust their insight — and their network.
Wedding planners are more than happy to offer vendor recommendations, but did you know they can also do a little digging if you’ve got your eye on someone they’ve never worked with before? “Let us use our phone full of contacts to do some due diligence, “There’s no better way to find out if an up-and-coming photographer is an amazing find or difficult and disorganized than directly from someone who has worked with them before. When it comes to the vendors that made the cut (and are on your planner’s recommendation list), give them some serious consideration. It’s a combination of amazing work, easy personalities, great value, and overall positive experiences that give a vendor a wedding planner’s gold star.
Let them be creative.
Most planners are in the wedding business because they love it — and because planning events get their juices flowing. Sure, their job is to help execute your vision, but you might be pleasantly surprised (or totally blown away!) by the new ideas they’ll come up with if you give them some flexibility. “It makes me so happy when a bride wants to brainstorm new ideas to take her wedding to the next level,”
“More than just pulling inspiration images together in a design meeting, it gives us a chance to really elevate the event.
Make the extra investment.
You might be tempted to go with a slightly less expensive option so that you can keep some extra money in your budget, but the planner whose rate is more may actually save you money in the long run. “Planners with higher fees usually have fewer clients (which means more time to devote to your wedding) and more experience (which means they know what’s worth it and what can be nixed from your budget)They’ll help you spend smarter, and you’ll get so much more out of the process “It’s like the 10% – 90% rule. Ten percent of your efforts will impact 90 percent of your gain.”
Don’t ask for a consultation before you’ve signed a contract.
While a planner will give you a peek into their services during your initial conversation (like letting you know if they’re familiar with your dream venue or providing insight into budgets they can work with), don’t ask a planner to start giving you recommendations before you’ve officially hired them. “That first interview isn’t the time to ask if they can recommend a photographer or share their catering contacts, You wouldn’t want to give away your expertise for free, either!
Don’t ask for a discount.
The market is competitive, so most vendors are already giving you their best pricing in the hopes of securing you as a client. “Trust them and look for the value of the vendors you’re hiring, instead of the savings, And don’t ask your planner to ask your vendors for a discount, either. We work with these vendors because we know their value, work ethic, and consistency, and it’s frustrating when it seems that the value is lost on the client.”
Don’t forget that they’re business professionals.
Aside from peak wedding season, planners usually keep normal business hours, so don’t expect them to answer your texts at 10pm on a Tuesday. Better yet, swap the texts for emails instead. “Texts get lost or missed, are easy to misconstrue, and are too casual for the planning process,” “We want to keep organized files and communication records, and there’s more space to explain a question or idea in an email.” If you’re going to call your planner, schedule a time instead of just picking up the phone. “If we have you on our schedule, we can make sure to be in the office with access to any files we might need — which means the call will be much more productive.
Finally avoid calling or texting over the weekends. Chances are he or she is helping another bride down the aisle and will be giving that bride her full attention — the same full attention you’ll want on your own wedding day.
The wonderful thing about event planning is there are no rules. What worked for one planner isn’t the magic potion for another. I’ve always viewed my event sites as art classrooms, with me being the teacher and my client the student. Together we created their event visions, often changing the game plan along the way. You can design a space that looks perfect on your computer screen, but when you start to build your actual site it doesn’t work – that’s okay!
Cookie cutter molds and industry trends don’t last long for good reasons. You might create what other planners feel is a beautiful master piece space. They try to duplicate your work, it never looks or feels the same as the original art. You are an original! You’re not meant to be copied, changed or molded to please the masses. When you live in the planning moment, go to that place within you that no one else has access to, that’s when you find your most creative moments.
It takes time to become the artist you feel you can be. Thumbing through Bridal magazines monthly, searching the Internet weekly for the latest trends, or following your favorite event planners daily on social media won’t catapult your career. The magic pill is you! You are worth however long it takes to reach that place you need to be. It’s not a race to the finish line, its your career path! Walk it with conviction, with purpose and with pride in your art!
While I was pondering about life, I discovered that:
Sometimes, to succeed in life you need ENEMIES! Yes!
You need people who will mock you, so that you can run to God. You need people who will try to intimidate you, so that you can be courageous.
You need people who will say “NO” so that you can learn how to be independent…I mean how to do it yourself.
You need people who will disappoint you so that you can put all your trust in God alone.
You need people who will work towards you loosing that job, so that you can start your own big business.
You need people who will sell your ‘Joseph’ so that ‘you’ can get to Egypt and be a Prime Minister in a strange land of captivity You need a cruel landlord, so that you won’t be too comfortable in someone Else’s house, then you can build your own house on time.
But sometimes, when we are disappointed, we feel very bad and we tend to remain on that spot. Not knowing that the end-point of disappointment is the beginning of your accomplishments.
Understand this, “that every disappointment you once had came with a blessing!” However, it is not everyone that partakes in this blessing that I’m talking about.
You cannot see a new OPEN door while you are still putting all your attention, time and energy in trying to force the closed one to open.
And again I say, “No disappointment can ever come without an attached blessing!” So, when the disappointment come, thank God for it and tell “HIM” to open your eyes to see the new blessing that HE has for you!
Disappointment is PHASE1 while accomplishment is PHASE2. I doubt if one can jump the protocols. That is why it is called BREAKTHROUGH Something must BREAK so that you can go THROUGH!
1. Get Organized: This is the hardest and most important step.
You need to set up a system for yourself to keep track of the big picture and all the little details. Get a big binder and divide it into tabs for each big part of your wedding. Here are some you might want to start with and what’s likely to go in them. You can use this binder from the get-go and include inspirational pictures and ideas as well, if you want.
Important Info (for me, this is a couple sheets in page protectors before the other sections; it’s the stuff you’ll reference most often on/right before your wedding day)
Contact Sheet – Name, Cell Phone Number, & Email Address of everyone with a role in your wedding (vendors, wedding party, family members, officiant, anyone needed for pictures)
Timeline – Detailed breakdown of what happens, when it happens, where it happens, and who needs to be there – for the entire day, including getting ready & getting home or to the hotel after the party is over
Checklist – of everything that needs to be brought to the ceremony or reception, and who is responsible for bringing it
Shot list for your Photographer
Copy of your ceremony text
List of your processional/recessional order
Your marriage license, ready to be signed!
Anything else related to your ceremony
Venue information, including floor/seating plans, and any needed setup
Playlist for the DJ, with special songs (first dance, etc.) noted
List of who is giving toasts & list of people you want to remember to thank!
Anything else related to your reception
In addition to the guest list, you might also keep track of gifts received & thank you notes sent in this section.
Many of you may find this section optional. However, if you are coordinating dresses and/or suits for a large wedding party and/or parents, that could go here.
Depending on your personal organizational style, you might put any of these in another section.
All of them. You do have contracts, don’t you?
You probably noticed a bunch of paperwork referenced in that list (Contact Sheet, Guest List, Timeline, Checklists, Playlist, etc.). I recommend you use an online document service (like Google Docs) for these things. That way you can access them quickly from just about anywhere when you think of something that needs to be added or edited, and you and your partner can collaborate easily.
2. Make Backup Plans
OK, now that you’ve got everything in one place, there are probably some things for which you should have backup plans. Examples are: outdoor events, which should have an indoor location secured in case of inclement weather; flower girls/ring bearers who may be suddenly shy and unwilling to walk the aisle in front of all those people; your iPod playlist which should be copied onto someone else iPod too!
3. Find the Missing Details
Read APW’s wedding grad posts, consult online checklists or friends who’ve gotten married, ask a planner—whatever. There is probably something you forgot (reserved signs for your family’s seats? someone to press play on the iPod? toasting glasses your grandmother sent you a month ago?), and if you take a little time now to check your list twice, you’ll figure it out before the big day arrives and thus avoid panic.
4. Hire a Wedding Stage Manager or Sweet Talk a Friend. A wedding Planner is not optional. Not because you need someone to plan your wedding for you, because, obviously you already did that in step 1. But because on your wedding day, you do not want to be setting up chairs and centerpieces before you run back to the hotel to get ready, wearing a watch to keep things happening on time, or talking to the catering manager every twenty minutes about what food to bring out and which tables go where.
I know everyone’s schedules are crazy and it’s hard to get people in the same place at the same time, but even if it’s fifteen minutes the morning of the wedding, try to schedule at least a quick walk through of your ceremony. Practice walking slowly, unless you want to be like me and beat your bride down the aisle.
6. Relax, Get Married
Hand over your binder, your watch, and your cell phone to that person you designated in Step 4 (preferably the day before) and simply be present. Soak up all the moments in the first day of the rest of your awesome married life.
Random Bits of Advice
Ask your baker how to cut that first slice of cake. They often place towels and plates in and between layers so that it doesn’t slip or fall over; it’s better to cut around those, yes?
Make a shot list for your photographer. Even if you aren’t doing formal, posed photos, you know there are people you’d be sad about not getting a picture with. Write it down and check it off.
Decide in advance what you’re going to eat on your wedding day (before the reception) and the days before. Put someone else (great job for your best person) in charge of making sure you eat. And choose healthy stuff that you know won’t upset a nervous stomach.
If you’re having any kind of welcome party or rehearsal dinner in your home, especially if you live in a condo or apartment building, let your neighbors know ahead of time or be prepared for them to throw big hussy fits about it. (I speak from personal experience.)
Write your thank you notes as soon as you get gifts. I cannot stress this enough. (A friend has a rule that she cannot use a gift or deposit a cheque until the note is written – an excellent rule.)
If you’re getting married outside (or spending time outside right before your wedding) and you burn easily, for the love of all that is sacred, please wear sunscreen. Lest you have a big red blotchy area on your chest that is not in the shape of your gown’s neckline. (Yep, that’s me.)
Little Phrases from Theater that May Help You
Weddings are one of life’s greatest milestones and have been for centuries. For so many women, the wedding day has been something they’ve been told is the most important day of their lives; and consequently they’ve been planning and fantasizing about their big day since they were young girls. And that’s probably a good thing since there are so many aspects of a good wedding, especially for traditional ceremonies . If it isn’t done right, the ceremony just doesn’t mean as much.
We tend to put so much bearing, weight and importance on making sure everything about the big day is completely perfect, that the day is almost ruined by stress and fatigue. You only get one wedding day and you should be standing back and enjoying the moment, not worrying about trivial things that someone else could be handling.
Wedding planners are often thought to be used by those planning extravagant soirees, but just like a pre-wedding spa treatment, a wedding planner can be the first wedding gift you give yourself. From day coordination to full-on design and planning, there are wedding planners for every budget.
Here are 5 Reasons You Should Hire a Wedding Planner:
1) They will help you stay within your budget. Many couples go over budget because they aren’t sure how a particular cost fits in with the big picture, or are easily swayed by costly upgrades from their vendor. A good wedding planner will help you determine what is necessary for your budget.
2) They will save you time. The average wedding will take 200-400 hours to plan, and this can be extremely overwhelming for busy couples. They can help you find the best wedding photographer or that perfect caterer for your reception—something that could take you forever to do with your busy schedule. A good wedding planner will break your to-do list down into functional bite-sized increments, making it less impossible to get things done.
3) They will help you make good decision, based on their years of experience. It’s your first wedding, and this is their thousandth, so you will be in good hands with a wedding planner helping you make decisions.
4) They can understand and interpret your vision. Wedding planner’s jobs are the listen to what you want and make it happen in the most realistic terms. If it’s something that can’t be done, they can help turn your idea into a better one that can actually work.
5) They will give you peace of mind that things will get done. Knowing that you have an advocate there coordinating your day allows you enjoy the moment and be a relaxed guest at your wedding, not a stressed-out problem solver.
There is a perfect wedding planner for every person and every budget. Just make sure that the planner understands your vision for your wedding, and if it’s a good one, they’ll stop at nothing to make sure your wedding day is the happiest day of your life.
l think of you
as the sunset brings forth its hue
as the sunrise brings forth its glow
you give my life the flow
that’s why l can’t let you go
even if you bow
even if you blow me kisses
and promise me lists
l won’t leave you in this gist
l will fight for you with fists
and we will clear this mist